Why do we love people so much?
How can it be that the feeling of someone's arms around you sends your heart racing?
A kiss lurches your stomach in a really interesting and good way.
And how come it takes so long to move on from that person?
Why do you have to move on at all?
You planned your future with this person, but then things change, and they change and you find yourself in a situation where you have to say good bye.
Why does that hurt so incredibly much?
How can you be so mad at someone, and still want to be with them?
Except really there's nothing you can do to change their mind once it's made up, and you just have to let them go.
You're scared to let go too quick, because what if they come back to you? And someone else comes along, but you just can't do it yet. You're not ready.
He touches you, and all you want is for him to let go, because it's just weird and uncomfortable. All you want is that other person back.
I'm not holding my breath waiting. I'm holding up fine, do you believe me?
Most days I'm happy and busy and I can laugh, you know. I'm not afraid to have fun without him. I have my own life now. And he has his.
We have fun together, even now, even though we are "just friends."
But I still love his hugs. I still love his smile.
Except, you know, it's a brand new day today. And I'm going to be okay.
I have lots more good days than I do bad ones, but I feel like I'm still allowed to have bad days. I'm still allowed to miss him more than words can say. I still cry sometimes, you know? I still get upset when I think what was and what we had planned, and how we were.
I think he got too stressed out. About everything. And even though I tried, I don't think I helped him relax at all.
Not dating is something that is good for us, and I hate to admit it, but it's probably one of the best decisions I made.
I hurt and I ache and I feel. But I feel human, do you even know what that's like? I don't feel like I have to be anything for him anymore. I don't feel like I have to keep stuff in check just so that I don't piss him off anymore. I'm free to be myself, and I love being myself!
I do what I want, when I want, and I don't have to report to him. I go places and do things and buy stuff. I go out to eat. With my friends. With my friends!!
I had to fall down to build myself back up. You have to be broken before you can be fixed. And I am so broken.
Do you ever notice how after you cry, you feel a lot better? Especially if you're crying while you're writing, and then once you write through everything, it's like this weight just gets lifted off of you?
I have to write through my feelings, I have to put them out there, wear my heart on my sleeve or I am never going to feel better. I will never get over this.
I have to tell you that I don't want to move on! I don't want to date someone else for a very long time. I wanted to marry Prince Charming someday, I really did. And for a while, he wanted that too. And now, now I don't know what he wants. I don't need to know what he wants.
I don't want him to date anyone but me. I want to be his only girl for a long time. It would kill me if he started to see someone else. Partly that is because he has more of me than any other person, he knows me better than anyone else. The thought of finding someone else to do that scares me.
He was jerk the last couple of weeks we were together. And he was a jerk this summer too. Things got better the last part of the first semester, and things were great through Christmas break, but he did not treat me like he loved me when we started school back up in January.
But he's changed since we broke up. He's not a jerk anymore. He's back to being that guy that I liked so much, but we can't be together anymore. Because he is that guy, and he also isn't. I'm that girl, and also I'm not.
We met at ages 18 and 19, and now we are 20 and 21. We changed a lot, and we still have changing to do. And even though I miss him and I miss everything we once had, I'm learning to live my life without him.
I still talk to him, a lot. Probably more than I should, but he does have this way of making me feel better.
He told me not to wait for him. He told me he might not come back. It hurts to hear that from him. I want to hear that he loves me and just needs time to be himself, but actually hearing that is going to help me move forward.
Heartbreak is never easy. Separation is always difficult.
But at the end of the day, I know I'm going to be alright. I have lots of people who do love me and care about me and will always be there for me no matter what. And even though I wish with all my heart that he could be one of those people too, only time will tell.